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CatoRenasci's avatar

I’m a lawyer who’s more generally conservative (libertarian-flavor) and I agree with you on this point!

I wonder if the reactions on this point have more to do with the difficulties with sorting out financial and child care issues in divorce situations - actual difficulties and perceived senses of fairness or unfairness in matters involving child custody, support, division of assets, etc. Back in the bad old days of ‘fault’ divorce, it was generally more tolerable to a general public watching mostly from afar that the ‘bad’ spouse was dealt with punitively and the ‘innocent’ spouse was treated more positively.

My biggest concern with easier divorce is the effect on children, especially as easier divorce leads to multiple mixed families, step-siblings, wrenching changes in financial and other circumstances for children, who are often shuttled between parents in joint-custody situations, with both parents vying for the kids’ sympathy and loyalty.

Regardless of the legal impediments or lack thereof, married couples should think thrice (or more) about the potential effects on the children and less often about their individual ‘happiness’ in situations in which there is no overt infidelity or physical or mental abuse.

I’ve know a fair number of kids over the years - starting with friends when I was a teen and on through children of friends and of our own children - where the parents divorced at sensitive times for the children for no apparent reasons other than they had ‘grown apart’ or ‘wanted to do their own thing’ or even ‘wanted a better lover’…Very tough on these kids - unsettling to the kids into many ways, confusing about themselves and everything they’d believed about their families, etc.

I know there are situations where divorce makes sense even when children are involved, and I am certainly no enemy of relatively liberal divorce laws.

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KJH's avatar

The problem becomes when those with "loud voices" are in positions of power to advance policy and law's. Those loud voices believe their view of marriage and divorce should be what everyone adheres to. And that frightens me. All we have to do is look at the overturning of Roe (even when it's own flaws) to see those loud voices become extreme ... and see real women die because of restrictive laws regarding reproductive care.

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